Monday, April 21, 2008

learning from letting go

What are some types of letting go?
Letting go of Guilt
Letting go of Grief
Letting go of Dependency
Letting go of Over-Responsibility
Letting go of Resistance to Change
Letting go of Fear
Letting go of Anger
Letting go of Denial
Letting go of a Loved one to death
Letting go of Life

Last Thursday, my brother-in-law held a most impromptu memorial service for my late sister, Jennifer. As it was rather a last minute arrangement, I wasn't keen to attend. I told my sister June that since I've always kept Jennifer in my heart, a memorial means very little to me. But eventually I attended and I was glad I did. The second part of Jennifer's message was revealed to me and it has to be now while I'm in the midst of learning to let go...
I'll just share it here :

"Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints in the snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die."

Her message is to let go. Life moves on..for her and for everyone.


S.Ghosh said...

WM i tried to "let go " and i felt the resistance this so hard ?i questioned myself ....i let out my hand in the breeze of evening d after a long while silently touching the wind ...i felt something which i can not explain ...i don't know is that mental status is called "letting go"....

keep well

Anonymous said...

u write well, can u please tell me who wrote that poem? Is it quoted from somewhere?

The Runner, Dreamer, Observer, Seeker said...

I don't know..I'm still learning. And whatever I have learned... letting go is :
- Releasing yourself or others from a real or perceived guilt-arousing obligation.
- Freeing yourself or others to be themselves without fear of rejection or disapproval.
- Granting to others the personal responsibility for their own lives.
And as always, practising what we know is never easy.

The poem was written by Jennifer 3 years ago when she knew her time was near...she was planning for her own funeral then. She had the first part of the poem (see March 17)printed as a bookmark and given to friends as a thank you gift and to remember her. My brother-in-law had the second part of her poem
printed as a handout during the memorial service.

Have we ever thought about writing our own eulogy or plan for our own funeral service? Doing this, I believe will remind us of our mortality and the need for us to keep our priorities in life clear.

akaash said...

may be you are right. and yes, trying to be immortal, perhaps, is one of the most meaningful purposes of living a life that is so temporary!

CP Waterman said...

An awesome poem that speaks volumes. I'm so deeply touched & ministered.
Thanks for sharing!